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Breakthrough, New You: Friendship


The people we meet in college are supposed to shape the person we become. If we're lucky, our high school bffs come with us to our respected institutes and if not, we become new people without them. You're bound to change in some sort of way. Its life! We never stay the same. We just keep changing and continue to evolve into a better version of ourselves.

Let's be honest though, who really keeps the same friends their entire life? I can count one friend that I still actively converse with that I've known since childhood. We stay two houses from each other, literally in our childhood homes. Our friendship has stood the test of time. We've been friends for 20+ years, and though we lead completely different lives, we always meet up at the fence to catch up and laugh like our childhood.


That's what friendship is all about. Making lasting memories and always having each other's backs. My current best friend is the one person in the last ten years, outside of family, that has had my best interest at heart from the moment we became friends. Let her tell it, she didn't like me when we first met. I was her manager at a hair salon and she was my beauty adviser. She always tells people that I was the snootiest person she had ever met, but that's always everyone's impression of me when they meet me. I must warm up to you before I can be myself. Nothing wrong with that.

When I moved away for school, she let me borrow an insane amount of money, it was like $200 but to me, that's a lot of money for someone you barely know outside of work. We have never hung out at the point, but I asked for it and she gave it to me. I paid her back in a timely order but that was the beginning of our friendship.


I moved in with my "then" best friend, even after she had broken the ULTIMATE girl code. I chose to forgive her and moved forward. She was a different kind of friend. I always considered her my blood, but it never seemed that way on her side. In hindsight, I understand why I felt that way. She was my friend nonetheless.

In my 30s, I find that friendship is just as important as having a good credit score. Nobody can do anything alone. You can try but you'll find out that you need a great support system. The friendships that you build now truly help shape the person you will become. Looking back when I was in high school, I was surrounded by friends, and now, there is no one in my life from high school, aside from Kourtney, my childhood bestie and longest friend. All the people closest to me, I've met in the last 10 years and I'm completely fine with that.

Consider your current, long-term friends. Do you think if you met them today you would have the same relationship? Would they still accept you the way they do now? Comment below and let me know about all your friendships. Remember to click the heart to the right if you liked this topic, and make sure to share this post on your Facebook, and Twitter accounts. I’m aiming for 3 shares per platform. I love you all! Until next time…



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